A live, small-cohort, online immersion program for men seeking to understand deceptive sexuality as integrity-abuse—and to practice becoming better men together.
Be a Better Man is not self-help, motivational content, or group therapy. It is a rigorous, immersive educational pathway led by Dr. Omar Minwalla, the originator of the Deceptive Sexuality, Integrity-Abuse, and Secret Sexual Basement frameworks. Men enter this work to confront what is largely unseen and unnamed in contemporary culture: how cheating, infidelity, secret sexual realities, and double lives function as integrity-abuse—and how these behaviors cause real, measurable trauma to partners, children, and family systems. This is the sacred initiation and heroic path into Voice-Up Culture and Alpha Masculinity. Vibe in…or not, and Masc-Off!
A foundational course that helps men move from darkness into clarity, like stepping out of a cave and into the light, by accurately identifying the abuse-victim-trauma reality of deceptive sexuality. Participants learn why a secret sexual basement is an integrity-abuse and dishonesty problem, not merely a sexual issue, and are introduced to the
22 traumatic impacts on partners, children, and the family system.
Be a Better Man 1 is a four-day online immersive experience in which men undertake a serious study of:
This course is the foundation of the Be a Better Man pathway.
If Illumination is about seeing clearly, Application is about answering the question: “Now that you’ve seen the light What’s the Plan, Man?” This structured learning phase focuses on behavioral change, accountability, and relational responsibility. Men learn about Ego Work, Integrity-Abuse Behavioral Change, Attending Work, Mountain Work, and Masculine Maturation, while preparing for Voice-Up and IAA Accountability Group participation.
Be a Better Man 2 is focused on application and practice. Men learn the skills required to translate insight into action, including:
This course is designed for men who have completed Be a Better Man 1 and are prepared to engage the work at a higher level of responsibility.
7:00am – 3:00pm PST
Must have completed the Be a Better Man 1: The Illumination Course.
$5,250 USD
Note: This is not therapy, or treatment. All participants are required to be in therapy with a licensed mental health professional in order to take, and during, this course.
The Better Man Bridge is a highly focused, 10-week psychoeducational program based on Dr. Minwalla’s Ten Steps Curriculum, designed to take participants’ understanding of Abuse–Victim–Trauma (AVT) significantly deeper. Each step represents a critical set of teachings required for continued development. Weekly programming includes a live lecture by Dr. Minwalla followed by a Voice-Up session, assigned readings, structured homework, and post-tests to ensure comprehension and integration.
The Bridge functions as both preparation and ethical screening for advancement into Voice-Up Groups, IAA Accountability Groups, and conscious, evolved masculine spaces, under the supervision of Alpha Shepherd. Each step is a necessary plank required to get to the promised land. This is not a symbolic passage; it is a demonstrated one.
The Better Man Bridge is a paced, structured course focused on working the Ten Steps of the Secret Sexual Basement:
This course is intentionally designed to be accessible while maintaining intellectual rigor, accountability, and depth.
Winter 2026 Course:
Each session is 2 hours, one step per week on Mondays, for 10 weeks.
Must have completed the Be a Better Man 1: The Illumination Course.
$5,250 USD
Note: This is not therapy, or treatment. All participants are required to be in therapy with a licensed mental health professional in order to take, and during, this course.
An ongoing masculine practice community for men who have established baseline honesty and accountability. This extraordinary, highly evolved space allows men to set the backpack down and engage in sustained Voice-Up groups, IAA Group Work, and Masculine Maturation. The focus is long-term integrity, relational repair, and accountable living within a conscious, structured, and ethically grounded community.
Be a Better Man 3 is an advanced, practice-based space for men who have demonstrated readiness for sustained integrity, accountability, and relational Alpha leadership. This offering functions as a living laboratory for masculine development, Voice-Up practice, and community responsibility. As the program evolves, a future subscription-based model may be introduced.
Home Meeting: Voice-Up session every Wednesday
Each session is 1.5 hours, on Wednesdays.
Must have completed The Better Man Bridge: Ten Steps Application Course.
Currently this program is being offered at no cost, with love 💚.
Note: This is not therapy, or treatment. All participants are required to be in therapy with a licensed mental health professional in order to take, and during, this course.
The focus of education will be on behavioral change and how to create a self-study on integrity with the goal of helping men to reduce integrity-abuse behaviors. The education helps men develop a blueprint for how to apply cognitive-behavioral techniques to address specific integrity-abuse behaviors and patterns which may be getting in the way of healing.
The focus of the education is on a human being’s internal reality and how to help men understand the importance of developing ego strength and ego health more consciously so that they can care for themselves better, which may allow them to attend and care for the people and relationships they have harmed, better.
The focus of the education is on how to progressively come to terms with reality and become more able to better attend to the intimate partner or spouse, the abusive-injured relationship, as well as children and the family system.
The focus of the education is to review the various options for work, encourage development of a plan and then provide education on how to work the plan into an ongoing practice, a personalized and focused way to do some work, your Better Man practice.
The Alpha Circle is the most advanced and sacred level of the Be a Better Man Brotherhood. This invite-only leadership circle is for men who have completed the foundational work of illumination, accountability, and repair—and are now called to embody conscious masculine leadership in their lives and communities. The Alpha Circle is built on honesty, integrity, humility, and presence. It is not about dominance or status—it is about becoming safe, trustworthy, and responsible with power and influence.
Members are held to the highest standard of:
There is no application and no self-nomination. Invitations are extended based on character, consistency, and readiness. The Alpha Circle exists to cultivate mature, grounded men who lead by example—and help change the culture of masculinity from the inside out.
A Quiet Policy Rooted in Dignity
The Institute for Sexual Health is committed to ensuring that men who are genuinely ready to engage this work are not excluded solely due to financial hardship. At the same time, these programs reflect decades of original clinical development, research integration, and direct teaching by Dr. Minwalla. Tuition is set to honor the seriousness, rarity, and sustainability of this work.
Supported Tuition & Scholarship Consideration
This process is intentionally quiet, respectful, and non-shaming. Men are never asked to justify their worth. Only their readiness. Requests for support may be made during the application process.
This work is not for everyone. It is for men willing to tell the truth, take responsibility, and walk the walk of their own heroic journey.
Be a Better Man is for men who are ready to Alpha-Up—to replace dominance, entitlement, and image-based masculinity with integrity, responsibility, and conscious leadership. It is for men willing to Voice-Up: to speak truthfully, listen deeply, and remain present in discomfort rather than retreating into silence, defensiveness, or performance. This work is for men prepared to study deceptive sexuality and integrity-abuse without minimization, and to face the real impact of their actions on partners, children, and family systems. It is not for men who want to Man-Up in the old way—through suppression, bravado, blame, or avoidance. It is not for those seeking relief without reckoning, change without effort, or validation without accountability. Be a Better Man is not a motivational experience; it is an initiation into conscious masculine responsibility. Men who enter do so by choice—and by readiness.
This work is for men ready to tell the truth, take responsibility, and step into conscious masculine leadership.
Men who complete Be a Better Man programs are welcome to return and re-attend courses as part of their ongoing development and practice. Re-attendance is not repetition. It is an opportunity to deepen understanding, strengthen Voice-Up capacity, and embody the work at a more mature level. To support commitment and sustainability, returning participants may re-attend programs at a reduced tuition:
Be a Better Man 3 participants may re-attend related offerings as part of their active involvement. In certain circumstances, additional support or fee adjustments may be offered at the discretion of the Institute.
Many men re-enter courses multiple times as the work matures in them.
Men are encouraged to take courses again and again as part of their growth. Re-attendance is not repetition. It is how the work becomes embodied. Returning participants may re-attend at deeply reduced tuition:
Many men choose to re-enter courses multiple times as they deepen capacity, presence, and leadership often describing this as where the work truly comes alive.
This work deepens with repetition. Men are encouraged to return—not to relearn, but to lead.
Men serving in high-impact masculine environments—including military, first responders, law enforcement, professional athletics, and college settings—may qualify for a 50% tuition reduction. This is offered intentionally to support integrity-based leadership and cultural change from within.
Be a Better Man is a structured developmental pathway. Tuition supports entry into the learning; deeper participation is shaped by integrity, responsibility, and service.
BABM 1: Illumination
28 hrs. | Live | Small Cohort
Standard Tuition: $7,000
Supported Tuition: $4,500 (limited)
BABM 2: Application
21 hrs. | Live | Small Cohort
$5,250
The Better Man Bridge
10 weeks | 21 hrs. | Small Cohort
$5,250
Re-Attendance (Returning Men)
BABM 1 — $750
BABM 2 — $600
Bridge — $500
BABM 3: Practice, Brotherhood & Alpha Formation
Ongoing | Application-only | Small Cohort
No cost (by acceptance only)
Alpha Circle
Some men are invited into deeper stewardship of the voice-up culture.
Select Alphas may help guide men across the Bridge with care and dignity.
Educational Consultation (Limited)
Founder-level, non-therapeutic
$1,200/hour
(Requests reviewed)
Cultural Impact Tuition
50% off standard tuition
(Military, Veterans, First Responders,
Professional Athletes, College Men)
Supported tuition and limited scholarships are offered quietly, based on readiness and need, at the discretion of the Institute.
Men pay to enter the learning.
They stay because they belong.
As integrity deepens and responsibility grows, money steps back and practice, care, and brotherhood step forward.
This work is not built on transaction, but on truth carried together.
— Alpha Shepherd
MD (Mad Dad), The Triadic Core Whisperer
What an Alpha Is
An Alpha is a man who has demonstrated the capacity to:
He is trusted not because he agrees with me,
but because he can hold himself.
What an Alpha is not
An Alpha is not:
Alpha status is responsibility, not rank.
It carries no authority over others.
Psychoeducation refers to the process of providing education and information to those seeking or receiving mental health services.
Yes. You can take the Bridge or Better Man 2 in any order and both must be completed to apply and be considered for Be a Better Man 3.
No. This psychoeducation on zoom is only for men, not couples, and does not involve the intimate partner.
Yes. Trish Haight, LMFT, SEP, NARM, NATouch, AF-EMDR, DSTT, CSAT, CPTT, is now conducting the same curriculum, separate from ISH as part of her independent private practice called, Here I Am Becoming: The Sister Course for women impacted by deceptive sexuality.
Outside of enrolled programs, Dr. Minwalla is retired from clinical practice and does not offer psychotherapy, treatment, evaluation, or general consultation. In rare cases, established Be a Better Man participants or DSTT professionals may request limited educational consultation for focused clarification related to the Minwalla Model.
Standard Rate: $1,200 per hour
Requests are reviewed and may be declined.
Consultations are instructional, not therapeutic.
As men move deeper into integrity, responsibility, and service, the role of money intentionally diminishes—and the role of practice, care, and brotherhood increases.
In 2026, Dr. Minwalla and ISH enter an academic sabbatical—sabbath in its original sense: a deliberate, disciplined pause devoted to reflection, study, writing, and moral recalibration after many years of continuous clinical and educational labor. In academic and professional traditions, sabbatical exists not as withdrawal, but as a necessary condition for clarity, depth, and renewed responsibility.
During this sabbatical, professional training programs are paused. Dr. Minwalla’s primary active focus is Be a Better Man—a program designed for men who are ready to slow down, tell the truth, and mature their relationship to power, sexuality, and responsibility. In contrast to performance-driven masculinity, Be a Better Man invites men into a practice of integrity, repair, and ethical strength.
This sabbatical reflects a deeper commitment: to model what it means for men to step out of constant production and ego-defense, and into conscience, accountability, and care. Be a Better Man is where this work is now most alive—supporting the emergence of Voice-Up Culture and a grounded, responsible vision of Alpha Masculinity.
8:00 AM – 4:00 PM PST
Invite-Only Community
Alpha Circle is an exclusive community, with access extended intentionally and with care.
I teach men as the Alpha Shepherd,
I speak for the harmed as Mad Dad,
I heal as the Triadic Core Whisperer.
I am the Twirler
Different Schedule for Sabbath Observant Men, the exact same course and content with Dr. Minwalla, but simply scheduling change, and anyone who has been accepted to take Be a Better Man 1 is welcome.
You can apply, which includes scheduling a free 20-minute phone consultation with Dr. Minwalla to discuss the course further and answer any questions you may have and suitability.
If interested, Submit an application here.
Dates for the next Level 3 Education and Training Cohort are yet to be decided. However, you may submit an application for Level 1 now and be on our waiting list.
Dates for the next Level 2 Education and Training Cohort are yet to be decided. However, you may submit an application for Level 1 now and be on our waiting list.
Dates for the next Level 1 Education and Training Cohort are yet to be decided. However, you may submit an application now and be on our waiting list.
A new curriculum that educates on the Ten Steps to Deceptive Sexuality, and also integrates education on what to start doing, actions and how to consider developing a plan, after the Illumination, with a focus on three types of work: Integrity-Abuse Behavioral work, Attending work (how to help those harmed), and Ego work (your Self). The program will likely be starting mid-April 2025, be once per week for about 2 hours, and will run for 12 consecutive weeks.
Only professionals who have successfully completed Level 1 and Level 2 can apply for Level 3.??
Only professionals who have successfully completed Level 1 and Level 2 can apply for Level 3.
Only professionals who have successfully completed level 1 can apply for Level 2.
Licensed Psychotherapist
Licensed Psychologist & Clinical Sexologist
Dr. Omar Minwalla is a Licensed Psychologist and Clinical Sexologist trained at the University of Minnesota Medical School. Dr. Minwalla has spent 20 years as a first responder on the front lines of treating infidelity and compulsive sexual behavior. His grounded theory of Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment (DSTT) not only establishes a new standard of care for the treatment of infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior disorders, and sex addiction, but shines a light on a unique method for the treatment of systemic abuse, injustice and complex trauma, called Intentional Vibe Trauma Treatment (IVTT). Dr. Minwalla is the founder of The Institute for Sexual Health (ISH) which was one of the first and only U.S. treatment centers to challenge the “co-sex addict” model and articulate the systemic abuse associated with infidelity and compulsive sexual behavior disorder.
While we are in the process of putting together a comprehensive program that meets your expectations, we understand that you may be eager to secure your spot and we appreciate your patience.
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