Minwalla School

Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library

For those who resonate with Dr. Minwalla’s work and voice, and are seeking more information, this page is for you.

Education on how maintaining a secret sexual life is psychological abuse that causes trauma to intimate partners, relationships, children, and families. A space where theories of infidelity, sex addiction, and compulsive sexual behavior converge into not only a definitive standard of care, but extends into a method and way of treating systemic abuse and complex trauma sequences, intended to help not just patients but humanity move towards justice and psychological health.

Minwalla School

Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library

For those who resonate with Dr. Minwalla’s work and voice, and are seeking more information, this page is for you. For those who resonate with Dr. Minwalla’s work and voice, and are seeking more information, this page is for you. For those who resonate with Dr. Minwalla’s work and voice, and are seeking more information, this page is for you.

Education on how maintaining a secret sexual life is psychological abuse that causes trauma to intimate partners, relationships, children, and families. A space where theories of infidelity, sex addiction, and compulsive sexual behavior converge into not only a definitive standard of care, but extends into a method and way of treating systemic abuse and complex trauma sequences, intended to help not just patients but humanity move towards justice and psychological health.

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Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library

Education on how maintaining a secret sexual life is psychological abuse that causes trauma to intimate partners, relationships, children and families, and where theories of infidelity, sex addiction, and compulsive sexual behavior converge with treatments for systemic abuse, injustice and complex trauma into a plane of extraordinary space and vibrational science.

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The Gigantic Elephant in the Room

Naming, or not naming, chronic patterns of abuse, violation and harm in intimate relationships due to deceptive sexuality.

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The Traumatic Impacts of Deceptive Sexuality

Dr. Minwalla articulates the traumatic impacts of deceptive sexuality on the intimate partner and relationships.

The Secret Sexual Basement

An educational metaphor to facilitate a foundational understanding of deceptive sexuality and the clinical term, deceptive, compartmentalized sexual-relational reality (DCSR). 

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An Interview with Dr. Minwalla:
'The Secret Sexual Basement'

An Interview with Dr. Minwalla: 'The Secret Sexual Basement'

Cheating, infidelity, and compulsive sexual behaviors are often a deceptive sexuality problem.

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The Traumatic Impacts of Deceptive Sexuality

Dr. Minwalla articulates the traumatic impacts of deceptive sexuality on the intimate partner and relationships.

Sexual Compulsivity or Sexual Entitlement?

Sexual compulsivity is “a lack of control” problem, and sexual entitlement is an “I don’t want to control” problem. One is an impulse control issue, and the other represents an unhealthy psychology and belief system.

DSTT Informational Justice Clarification Statement, Dr. Omar Minwalla, 2023

This clarification is to help people better understand how Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment (DSTT) is not the same as current treatments for infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior, or sex addiction. DSTT subsumes traditional treatment approaches and expands the field by illuminating blind spots, clinical errors, missing pieces, and ethical deficits in these current psychological treatments.

Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment (DSTT) is:

  1. Not a co-responsibility for infidelity model of treatment.
  2. Not a single diagnosis of compulsive sexual behavior disorder.
  3. Not the sex addiction model (i.e., it is not a single-diagnosis addiction concept only).
  4. Not a betrayal trauma treatment, betrayal recovery, or a partners of sex addicts trauma model. Deceptive sexuality trauma (DST) is different and distinct from betrayal trauma.
  5. Not a model that endorses, but refutes the concepts of co-sex addiction, prodependence/ prodependency, and/or codependency to treat survivors of psychological abuse or the abusive-injured relationship.
  6. Not a model that endorses, but refutes the concepts and the proposed treatments for sexual anorexia and/or intimacy anorexia.
  7. Not a model that endorses, but refutes the application of the Karpman drama triangle to victims of psychological abuse or to abusive-injured relationship(s).
  8. Not a problem sexuality diagnosis, and refutes attempts to modify human sexual arousal or to medicalize faith-based ideologies or misinformed moral judgment.
  9. Not a model that endorses, but refutes attachment-based treatments for intimate partner abuse, and instead utilizes a restorative justice model to treat abusive-injured relationship(s).
  10. Not a model that avoids the treatment of abuse, victimization, or trauma according to psychological practice guidelines and ethical responsibilities articulated clearly by the American Psychological Association (APA).
Dr. Minwalla’s voice, teachings, and grounded theory, Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment (DSTT), are explicitly not the same as any of the above. Instead, DSTT may subsume, or encompass as a subordinate some parts of these models, as is relevant for advancing the assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior disorder, and sex addiction.
Important Note: Dr. Minwalla and DSTT support the health-promoting functions and conditions found by many men, and any person, in twelve-step programs, including important human vulnerability, voices, and fellowship. While DSTT does not rely or depend on recovery-based spiritual programming, DSTT does not oppose, but honors patient self-determination.

An Interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla: ‘The Secret Sexual Basement’

Cheating, infidelity, and compulsive sexual behaviors are often a deceptive sexuality problem. In his exclusive interview on Tell Me How You’re Mighty: Real Talk About Cheating – Podcast with hosts Tracy Schorn and Sarah Gorrell, Dr. Minwalla talks about trauma and the conventional victim-blaming discourse around infidelity, as well as the role of sexual entitlement, and treatment.
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Published on: October 17, 2023

The Gigantic Elephant in the Room

Naming, or not naming, chronic patterns of abuse, violation and harm in intimate relationships due to deceptive sexuality.
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Published on: February 10, 2020

Cheating is Domestic Abuse?

How we have all been indoctrinated into the normalization of integrity abuse disorders in intimate relationships and family systems.
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Published on: March 26, 2015