Be a Better Man

An educational course on deceptive sexuality & trauma and its effects on you and your loved ones.

Here's How to Get Started


Explore the Model

Visit the Resource Library and become more personally informed so you can decide if this course is right for you.


Decide to Take the Course

Submit your application and follow the instructions to self-schedule a phone consultation with Dr. Minwalla.


Turn on the Lights

Continue to work on having greater integrity, intimacy, and integration in your life and relationships.


Keep the Lights On

Visit the Resource Library and become more personally informed so you can decide if this course is right for you.

Be a Better Man Course

4 Days | 22 Hours
7:30am-2pm PST on Thursday – Sunday

Advanced registration required; next registration deadline is October 17, 2022

This online psychoeducational course provides insight on Deceptive Sexuality and the traumatic impacts that sexual acting out, patterns of infidelity, and cheating often have on the intimate partner, the relationship, and sometimes children and the family system.

By revealing and validating the experiences of their intimate partners, participants gain an understanding of Deceptive Sexuality as an abuse problem, not just a sex problem.

The Be A Better Man Course is not treatment. It is highly specialized psychoeducation to supplement ongoing therapy, recovery, and/or treatment programs.

As a prerequisite for registration, participants must:
1. Have their own therapist
2. Have a plan for their participation in the course, created with their partner(s) and therapist(s) support
3. Submit a screening application
4. Complete a 20-minute phone consultation with Dr. Minwalla

If you have any questions about the course or registration requirements, please contact us.

Upcoming Dates
  • October 20-23, 2022
    November 10-13, 2022
    December 8-11, 2022
    December 27-30, 2022
    March 16-19, 2023
    April 13-16, 2023
    May 11-14, 2023
    June 22-25, 2023
    July 20-23, 2023

Feedback from Participants

Dr. Minwalla presents this material in a very empathetic and understanding manner. He doesn’t give a pass to the abuser, but he makes you very aware that he understands your pain, remorse, and what you’re going through as you hear the material. He lets you know that he is there to help you if needed. This course will help make me a better person. I now understand how I have harmed my wife as I never have before. Although she told me many times about how I was hurting her, my understanding was shallow and never real until this course.

Participating in Dr. Minwalla's workshop was the beginning of a tremendous shift in my understanding of abuse and trauma, and my behavior towards my partner and myself. While providing a new understanding that was often painful and difficult, Dr. Minwalla always led with compassion and understanding. He illuminated the harmful consequences of my deception and abuse, and never lost sight of my potential to change my behaviors and live with integrity. I remain grateful two years after taking this workshop, which was pivotal in becoming a better man and a better partner to my wife.

I learned so much from taking your course and it was an opportunity I’m glad I took. I really appreciated how in depth you went with all of the concepts and made sure to break them down into ways that were easily understood. Because of that, I’ve been able to recount the information so much better than anything I’ve learned so far on my journey. It also meant so much to my wife to be seen and acknowledged as someone who has endured abuse through the years of my actions. It opened my eyes to the undeniable truth of the many different ways I have hurt her. I want you to know how much I appreciated how understanding and non judgmental your approach was through the course.

I was chronically deceptive for more than 30 years until working with Dr. Minwalla. His wisdom and the truths instilled in his unique model allowed me to know myself, understand the negative impacts of my behaviors, and change for the better. Dr. Minwalla cares deeply about everyone who participates in his workshops, as well as the people we have harmed. He presents complex and challenging concepts in a straightforward and non-judgmental way. Dr. Minwalla creates a safe and engaging space that allows even those in crisis to begin the process of self-knowledge and healing.

Thank you for the weekend. It was extremely powerful and educational. Your program and your model address the gaps in the other education and 12-step programs that I attend. It makes it so clear how I have traumatized my wife, and why my sobriety simply is not enough. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I have attended Dr Minwalla's course twice. The first time gave me a GREAT foundation to help understand the information and the impact my behaviour had on my wife. It was instrumental in my wife and I's healing process. The second time really solidified the information and was a great reminder for me. I picked up more granular details the second time around which deepened my understanding of my behaviour and impact. Happy to say my wife and I are still together and moving in a positive direction and this course was a MAJOR factor.

From Dr. Minwalla

Nobody is perfect…However, every man can become a better man

When I ran two national sex addiction and sexuality treatment centers, I treated very high numbers of “sex addicts,” intimate partners and spouses, and couples impacted by sex addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, infidelity, pornography, cheating, and sexuality problems.

In my 20 years of experience, the clients who made the most progress were those who were able to “flip the lights on” and keep them on, working hard to understand the impact their Secret Sexual Basement has had on their intimate partners, spouses, and families. These were men who were seeking integrity, and in doing so, were able to develop towards healthy intimacy and integration.

It is difficult work. You may not yet be ready to begin, and that’s OK. I encourage you to take the course if and only when you are ready. I have learned the best way to educate on such challenging information is to create a learning environment where all participants feel safe and respected.

It is my hope that this psychoeducation is used as an ongoing part of your treatment, fostering a conscious transition from dishonesty to integrity, and from boy psychology to mature masculinity.

Nobody is perfect…However, every man can become a better man.

– Dr. Minwalla